J-Lay

"Should've Been A Cowboy"

Friday, October 07, 2005

Pre-Marital Sex

yesterday, on my walk from the parking lot to the building i work in, i found some marketing material for monster energy drink. it was the first time i had ever seen a company slap their name on a package of condoms. i noticed that there are four different slogans randomly printed on the back of the condoms. surprisingly the slogans have nothing to do with energy.

#1 live large
#2 unleash the beast
#3 size does matter
#4 big where it counts

at one time this find might have been a welcomed find. saving me $8 to $12 dollars. now it is just something else to blog about. not because i don't believe in contraceptives, but because i don't have pre-marital sex anymore. i don't have pre-marital sex because i believe that God doesn't want me to, and i believe there are reasons behind this. i can speak from experience when i say that sex produces a very intimate bond between people. a bond that effects your mind, body, and soul. which is a wonderful experience, but the emotional high that it causes effects your already clouded judgment towards your boyfriend/girlfriend. this can cause you to take much longer to figure out that person isn't the one for you. in turn causing you more emotional pain at the time of break-up/divorce.

on the flip side, i believe that two people that hardly know each other can have casual sex without the intense emotional bond. at the same time this doesn't remove risk from the situation. there are two primary risk when having sex that can effect you for the rest of your life. the first is having a child. a child is quite an endeavor to embark on whether you plan to have them or not. some people that make the mistake of having a child when they are not ready or didn't plan on it. i know what some of you might be thinking. just because i get someone pregnant doesn't mean that i have to raise the kid. i can just leave and that baby will never effect my life. right, but what about the child’s life? isn't that just a selfish way to think? don't we have enough children being raised without a full "cast" in there show of life. or, one might think they can get an abortion and their problems are solved. i don't have any experience with abortion, but i'm told that it has quite an emotional impact on a woman when she aborts her pregnancy. not to mention it cost money.

also most people have multiple sexual partners throughout there life. when you mix this with stds you have the perfect conditions for trouble. stds can and will haunt you for the rest of your life. even though science has made a lot of progress towards the treatment of many stds. there are several that to this date are not curable and require medicine to help control the bodily effects of them. by the way, these medications cost money.

so lets recap. sex is wonderful. can i get an amen? anyone? still i feel that God tells us it is best to wait until marriage because it helps us make a more sound decision when it comes to choosing our life partner. for those of you who think you should test drive the car before you buy it. i agree, but people aren't cars. unlike cars, people can learn. so if you're worried about having a bad sexual partner as a spouse, don't. there are lots and lots of materials out there that can teach you the ins and outs of sex. also abstaining from sex keeps us from bringing children into the world that might live a neglected life. on top of that it protects us from unwanted diseases. so if you choose to take part in pre-marital sex. please, please be careful. the risk might be more than you think.

10 Comments:

At 10/07/2005 10:13 AM, Blogger Babs said...

amen brother

 
At 10/07/2005 11:09 AM, Blogger kerri said...

thanks, dr. lay

 
At 10/07/2005 12:26 PM, Blogger j-lay said...

on of my mom's dreams was for me to become a doctor. that's why she named me jason. it means healer.

 
At 10/07/2005 1:20 PM, Anonymous YayCoffee said...

Great post!

 
At 10/07/2005 10:13 PM, Anonymous faith said...

I'm being surprised at every turn lately when I read a 'nation' blog. I'm impressed, you are changing my perspective of you...not so out of control as I was lead to believe.

 
At 10/08/2005 2:33 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

What condom brand had a monster energy ad on it?

 
At 10/08/2005 11:48 PM, Blogger linz said...

excellent post!

 
At 10/10/2005 9:10 PM, Anonymous Amber said...

Hey Stud! I must say, I am so very proud of you! I always knew you would be the one friend of mine that would ALWAYS stand up for his beliefs. I adore you Jason!

 
At 10/11/2005 9:36 AM, Blogger EL MOL said...

yes jlay, this was a brave post and a good one.

big ups

 
At 10/11/2005 10:08 AM, Blogger MOL Junior said...

first of all it's inappropriate to call j-lay "stud" on this post!

second of all what an unbelievable post! you are a big man, j-lay. i have wanted to post on this subject (with the same opinion) for awhile but haven't b/c, as a MARRIED guy how can i tell SINGLE people to wait to have sex? that being said you laid out the reasons against premarital sex geniusly. love you j-lay!

 

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