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Wednesday, August 10, 2005

The Shy Guy

i was a shy kid growing up. i started to grow out of it during my junior year of high school, and over the last six years i feel that i have made great progress. especially with my day to day dealings with people, public speaking, ect. i still feel that i have some room to grow. especially when it comes to women.

when it comes to asking a girl on a date i become that shy kid again. i think it's a combination of fears that make me shy about approaching women. the fear of rejection and/or the fear of the awkwardness that is created after being turned down by someone you know and see on a regular basis. thus i do my share of online dating.

yesterday i read an article called
"how to ask him out". this would be a great shift of the pyridine for us shy guys. i have seen this happen first hand and applaud the women who have done so, and on behalf of us shy guys out there. i whish more women would do this. there are a lot of really great guys who just need a little bit of help when it comes to landing a date. personally i think a woman who is willing to approach a guys is all the more attractive.

6 Comments:

At 8/10/2005 4:17 PM, Blogger JMH said...

Man, if you think getting them to ask you out is hard, try getting 'em to pay for the dates too!

 
At 8/10/2005 6:48 PM, Blogger The Cynical Tyrant said...

wow, check out the spam comments on jlays blog.

i'm not asking you out, by the way. i have not read that book.

 
At 8/10/2005 10:02 PM, Blogger Teresa said...

I've been spammed alot lately too...I have know Idea what is up with it...maybe spam season or something?

In one of the only ways I am old fashon is that I want the guy to make the first move...but don't worry, there are girls who will make the first move.

 
At 8/10/2005 11:56 PM, Anonymous YayCoffee said...

But. . BUT. . .one of the loffly things about BEING a girl is the whole "they ask YOU out" thing. Really. We can't just shift the whole Paradigm. It'd be madness. ;-)

Besides, asking people out is, like, hella scary. eeep!

 
At 8/11/2005 8:52 AM, Blogger j-lay said...

i just cast the spam be gone spell, and poof. no more spam.

 
At 8/12/2005 11:14 AM, Blogger Babs said...

wow jason, you shy? i am shocked.
but yes, guys certainly do get the short end of the dating stick. but think of it this way - we have that whole "birthing" thing

 

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